Boys will be boys. At least that’s what they say. We’ve all heard it. When they’re rough housing or throwing a ball through a window during a game.. “boys will be boys”. But when is it more than that and when as parents do we start paying attention to the signs.
I’ve got a 10 year old. He’s ALL boy. Stitches on his face 11 times before he ever turned 5. Sixteen staples in his head last year from scalping himself under the bath tub facet. Three dislocated joints (TWICE), a broken finger, head concussion. Trust me, I know the meaning of ‘boys will be boys’. Mine’s the worst. He once covered himself in double sided tape and jumped off the bar towards the wall thinking he’d stick like spider man. He’s a nut.
But recently in the elementary school where he and my 11 year old daughter go to school, there’s been a new game going around. It’s called “Ten Ways to Die”. No, I’m not joking. Apparently, one person makes a list of 10 ways to die and puts each one on a strip of paper. They then take turns drawing from the pile to see how they are going to die and proceed to plan ways to achieve it.
Maybe they are just being boys, but I had to wonder what 9 and 10 year old boys would be doing thinking about death and could they even comprehend the severity of it.
I talked to my son about it. I asked if he’d been playing the game. He said, “Mom, that’s stupid. Who wants to die? No I don’t play a game like that.”
How would you handle this situation with your young child? Do you notify other parents? Do you make a big deal of it? Well, you all know me well enough to know that in the Wampler Household, we talk about every thing from sex, STDs teen pregnancy, abstinence, drugs, college, and loving those that don’t love us back. I did talk to the principal of the school and a few other parents. No one seems to be concerned.
Perhaps I’m a little over sensitive to the matter. My best friend died at age 11 along with his 9 years old brother. At the age of 16, another friend killed himself. Last year, a life long friend hung herself. When kids start ‘wanting’ death, I get concerned.